Some facts of life are sad but true, and one of these facts is that climaxing for many women is anything but easy. In fact, a recent survey from Valparaiso University in Indiana showed that more than half of women who struggle to orgasm attribute the problem to anxiety. Plus, because of the complex nature of the condition, other hangups can be heightened during sex, causing a vicious cycle of worry and frustration. Brenner writes in Psychology Today. If you feel that anxiety may be playing a role in your sex life, talk to a therapist. Women who have trouble reaching orgasm are almost always told to "just relax. Weston writes for WebMD. The Valparaiso University survey also indicated that nearly a quarter of women who had difficulty reaching orgasm blamed insufficient lubrication. Lubes are available drugstores and online. Consult this handy guide for expert tips on the best lube for every occasion.
Oh!-minus 15 Minutes: Your Orgasm Guide
First, get undressed and lie on your back using a pillow for neck support. Your legs should be bent and spread, feet together in butterfly position. If this makes your hips uncomfortable on one or both sides,. Your guy should sit to your right side on top of at least two pillows and straddle his bent left leg perpendicularly across her torso, foot flat on the opposite side. It almost looks as if he's on top in reverse cowgirl position, except his weight will be to the side of your torso. Have him separate your labia and retract the clitoral hood upward with the heel of the palm.
Oh!-minus 12 Minutes
You're probably raising your eyebrows right now -- either in skepticism or interest -- but hear us out! Author Timothy Ferris, with the help of sex experts, claims to have unlocked the secrets to the long female orgasm. In his book, The 4-Hour Body , he shares tips that helped him give his partner two extended orgasms, plus a minute orgasm! It's important to locate your wife's clitoris, G-spot, or any area that requires stimulation in order to climax. Try touching first, keeping in mind that you must be concentrated per cent throughout the process. This is where orgasmic meditation comes in. It is where a partner stimulates a woman for 15 minutes without any other agenda aside from pleasuring her. After undressing, lie on your back.
When Leslie Selene was younger, her mother explained to her that the female orgasm could be used to access spiritual states. The first time she ever masturbated, she understood. That's because Selene's orgasms last minutes, sometimes even hours. She says they make her feel at one with the universe, "flooded with light, fueling up on that goodness," as the feeling "moves through the body, out and around. It wasn't until she was an adult that she learned that most people only climax for a split second.