The Frisky -- There are a lot of misconceptions about lesbians. I'm confronted with them daily and, frankly, hearing this stuff is like getting smacked in the face with a wet rag. Usually, when someone fires off a stereotype, I am so shocked that I just stand there, staring, opening and closing my mouth like a big, dumb goldfish. So I'm going to take this opportunity to get up on my soapbox and stamp out all the stupid, ignorant misconceptions I have heard over the years. Hopefully, next time I hear one of these things I can eloquently explain why it's untrue rather than just stammering, "What!? Lesbians hate men.
Love & Sex
Lesbian bed death is the concept that lesbian couples in committed relationships have less sex than any other type of couple the longer the relationship lasts, and generally experience less sexual intimacy as a consequence. The concept is based on research by social psychologist Philip Blumstein and sociologist Pepper Schwartz , published in American Couples: Money, Work, Sex , which found that lesbian couples reported lower numbers when asked "About how often during the last year have you and your partner had sex relations? Analyses of the concept have therefore regarded it as a popular myth. Pepper Schwartz is credited with coining the term lesbian bed death. The questionnaire covered various aspects of their relationship such as work, sex, children, finances, and decision-making. Initially 12, volunteer couples, including lesbian couples, filled out questionnaires. Of these, couples in Seattle , San Francisco , and New York were selected for a more in-depth interview. Among the results, Blumstein and Schwartz concluded that lesbian couples in committed relationships have less sex than any other type of couple heterosexual married, heterosexual co-habitating or gay male and that they generally experience less sexual intimacy the longer the relationship lasts. This was based on responses to the question "About how often during the last year have you and your partner had sex relations? They also reported that lesbians seemed to be more limited in the range of their sexual techniques than did other couples, and that lesbian couples are less sexual as couples and as individuals than anyone else.
Some months ago a young woman came to see me who had just turned 18 — and had been questioning her sexual orientation for years. She had been attracted to girls since she was at high school, but she had had sex with both girls and boys. She now believed she preferred girls, but how could she be a lesbian when she had also slept with boys?
Make an honest effort, and see if you reach the walk-away point. When you mix cultural groups you increase the difficulty. He was funny, family-oriented, obviously very smart, etc. He was the best decision I have ever made in my life, hands down. And of course, everyone has a different experience. How some find time for Affairs is beyond me!!. Good luck to you and your family with the rest of fellowship. Never marry someone with the goal of a post-marriage conversion.